Betrayal Trauma

We expect relationships to be built on trust, love, and mutual respect. Which is why the shocking discovery of betrayal in a relationship causes feelings of chaos and confusion.
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WHAT IS BETRAYAL TRAUMA?

Few experiences create more pain and hurt than sexual infidelity (whether virtual or physical). 

For the victimized spouse, symptoms can include Indescribable fear, reliving the experience (dreams, replaying discovery over and over), avoidance (not being able to go out in public or be around things that remind you of what your spouse has done), negative self-cognition (I am not good enough or he/she wouldn’t do this, if I were prettier, taller, more attractive, lost weight, she/he wouldn’t do this) and Increased emotional arousal (intense anger, yelling, sleep problems related to racing mind, anxiety, suicidal thoughts).

THE JOURNEY TOWARDS RECOVERY

If you’re someone who is experiencing trauma from sexual betrayal you may feel that you are losing your mind or going crazy. In truth, what you are experiencing is common. If you find that you identify with the symptoms, please reach out for help and support. There are people who understand what you are experiencing. You are not going crazy.
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Help Her Heal 12 Week Group

An Empathy Group for Sex Addicts to Help Their Partners Heal

  • Cost: $650
  • Led by: Brad Gilbert, MFT, CSAT, EMDR
  • Dates: 8/5/24-10/21/24
  • Secure Zoom – need webcam. (US residents only). Limited to 10 participants so call today!
Empathy: Learn the posture, the wording, the practice
Know your Feelings: When you know yours it is easier to learn hers
Understand Her Needs: Safety, communication, boundaries, recovery, and relational
Triggers for Her: Help her manage these, learn to work as a team
Acknowledge Her Pain: Recognize it, own your part, collateral damage, her brain trauma
Communication Styles: How to express yourself in healthy ways
Shame Resilience: In the face of conflict shame can come up for you, how to avoid the cycle
Protection Skills: Learning to not internalize, not get defensive, and not give up
Develop Intimacy: Sharing your feelings with her, being vulnerable
Healthy Rituals: Creating trust and connection through the Check In process
Restoration of Trust: This is the goal you are working towards

Purchase of the book “Help Her Heal” by Carol Juergensen Sheets is required for this group.

Our Process

  • Step 1: Assess Each Partner's Needs
  • Step 2: Assess the Needs of Your Relationship
  • Step 3: Identify the Right Therapist for You
  • Step 4: Pause, Reflect, and Continually Measure Improvement

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Step 1: Assess Each Partner's Needs

In the Couples Therapy setting, couples learn how to communicate feelings and needs without using attacking and alienating words, and they learn how to disentangle from each other, after “buttons” have been pushed. 

The first step towards repair is to understand first understand each individual and their destructive cycles.

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Step 1: Assess Each Partner's Needs

In the Couples Therapy setting, couples learn how to communicate feelings and needs without using attacking and alienating words, and they learn how to disentangle from each other, after “buttons” have been pushed. 

The first step towards repair is to understand first understand each individual and their destructive cycles.

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Step 2: Assess the Needs of Your Relationship

Rather than doing the same dance over and over, with an understanding of each individual, we will then assess the couple dynamic in order to understand the destructive cycles. 

With an in-depth understanding, we will put together a plan to repair your relationships through neutralizing the negative and hurt feelings in an efficient and lasting manner.

Step 2: Assess the Needs of Your Relationship

Rather than doing the same dance over and over, with an understanding of each individual, we will then assess the couple dynamic in order to understand the destructive cycles. 

With an in-depth understanding, we will put together a plan to repair your relationships through neutralizing the negative and hurt feelings in an efficient and lasting manner.

Step 3: Identify the Right Therapist for You

Your therapy success is determined, in large part, to the specialization and personality fit of your therapist. The next step is to match you with the right therapist having the right specialization and personality to support you in your recovery journey. Our couples therapists specialize in:

Step 3: Identify the Right Therapist for You

Your therapy success is determined, in large part, to the specialization and personality fit of your therapist. The next step is to match you with the right therapist having the right specialization and personality to support you in your recovery journey. Our couples therapists specialize in:

Step 4: Pause, Reflect, and Continually Measure Improvement

With each couple, our goal is that you find empathy, connection, safety and continual growth on your journey of reconnection.

If you find that your therapist isn't a fit, or that you're not progressing, let us know and we will pause, reflect and suggest improvements and/or a new therapist.

Step 4: Pause, Reflect, and Continually Measure Improvement

With each couple, our goal is that you find empathy, connection, safety and continual growth on your journey of reconnection.

If you find that your therapist isn't a fit, or that you're not progressing, let us know and we will pause, reflect and suggest improvements and/or a new therapist.